I AM ENOUGH!
And this all stems back to a very early age where we try to shield children from the harsh realities of the world and say you are perfect and I’m going to keep you perfect. Until they go out into the world for themselves and find things to be very different. Instead we must say ‘You are hardwired for struggle and none of us are perfect but you are worthy of love and belonging.’
Instead we numb ourselves in bad food, alcohol, medication and addiction. But that doesn’t make the bad stuff go away instead it manifests physically in the body i.e. stress, anxiety, depression, etc. But we also numb joy, happiness and gratitude. When all we are looking for is purpose and meaning.
Everyone is looking for purpose and meaning. Recognition and connection. And by recognition that isn’t necessarily in promotions but simply in ‘I see you, I see the talents that you have and want to help you make the best use of them.’ That is so rare to be wanted for exactly who you are rather than what you can bring to a job and get paid an hourly wage when really they may have so much more to give than that and so feel undervalued.
‘We must let ourselves be seen. For people to see that it is okay to be vulnerable. To love with our whole hearts even though there is no guarantee. To practice gratitude and joy especially in those moments where it seems most difficult. To feel that vulnerable means you are alive. And to feel like we are enough.
When we say that we stop screaming and start listening. We are kinder and gentler to the people around us and we are kinder and gentler to ourselves.’